Here are seven things you’re doing that are pushing your partner away. If he is on meds maybe he needs to be evaluated to change the combination of drugs. I push people away because I want to wait for someone who makes an effort to stay. I love her with all my heart and there is no chance I'm giving up on her. That … He just did 5 days ago. He has Bi Polar and has broken up with me 5 times. Bipolar is actually labeled as “The best mental illness to have”, because it is NOT curable, however it is the most treatable illness out there. But the truth is, we always wished you’d stay. We have been very close and are in love with each other. I have worked on this in therapy but here's my thoughts that seem close to what you describe. I know she is going through a hard time at the moment and she is pushing everyone away. My trauma meant that I will spend the rest of my life with PTSD, sometimes doing well, sometimes struggling. One of the more dangerous kinds of manipulation is when, usually in multiple ways, a partner or spouse methodically isolates you from other people. He has been able to separate his wife from the illness. He said he is depressed and does not want to be around anyone. Try out these tips if you’re feeling rejected by your spouse, and you will be on the path to making things a little easier. What many are confused by is the push-pull cycle of “come close/go away” behaviors. This can come in direct or indirect ways--for example, by demanding you stay away from your friends, or by pretending to be sick every time you want to go out--and is usually a control issue. . Telling me it isn't me, it's her and it's not fair on me. Posted Mar 30, 2008 Blame The main goal of marriage should be peace and happiness, but too often we lose sight of that in our relationships. It just takes patience, to find the right med and the right dose for you. I know he loves me and I did not see this coming. 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